Tuesday, February 5, 2008

Frustration

Today I am frustrated. We have only been on the adoption journey for a little over a month, but it is going nowhere! I have spent the past month on the phone, calling agency after agency, trying desperately to find somebody to complete our home study. Everybody tells me the same thing. Let us check with our licensing specialist about your living situation and call you back. Only they never call back. I am currently waiting to hear back from a social worker with Graceworks Lutheran Social Services. She actually has been very helpful, however, she is also checking with her licensing specialist and is going to call me back. Same old story. But at least she is keeping me updated on what she knows. She said she is simply crossing all the T's and dotting the I's, though she is not promising anything. She informed me that licensing specialists are hard to get a hold of because they are always out in the field and are seldom at their desks, but hopefully we will hear something soon.

I wish it were simple. We want a baby and have love to give. There is a baby out there who needs love and a place to call home. A family. Why can't we simply be matched? How great would that be? I know it is not that simple. I am just dreaming! Anyway, I just wanted to share my thoughts. We will not quit trying until every door is closed.

4 comments:

Mob said...

Have you thought about contacting other couples who have adopted in your state to find out how they did it? or is it simply because of your living situation? Having the teenagers stay? Just keep trying like you said.

Kristin :) said...

Hang in there! If these agencies only knew what a great home they have ready and waiting, they'd be bending over backwards and flooding your door with babies!

Kendra said...

Paula,

It is simply because of our living situation! If we were not houseparents we would be well on our way. The only issue is having kids in our home who are not actually our kids, yet they are not technically our foster kids, either. They all have their own families waiting on them to get their act together. No one quite knows how to classify our family, yet because they temporarily live in my home they cannot just be my job and must be included in the homestudy. Confusing, huh!? I am not in a position to quit my job in order to adopt (this job funds the adoption!) so we will just wait until they figure out how to classify our family. Thanks so mch for your encouragment!

Our Family said...

Hi Kendra,

We will be praying for you, Ben, the girls and Baby Z #3. Keep fighting for what you guys want!

Christi